I spend a lot of my time online.
Not in a “doomscrolling for twelve hours straight” way — though I’ve done that too — but in the quieter, more normalized way. Games. Discord. Social feeds. Videos playing while I work. Tabs always open. Something always loading.
For a long time, I told myself this was fine. Healthy, even. After all, gaming helped me survive some really difficult years. Online spaces gave me connection when real-world energy was low. They gave me structure, goals, routine. Something to log into when getting out of bed felt like too much.
And that part is real. I don’t want to pretend it isn’t.
But there’s another part we don’t talk about enough — especially in gaming communities — and it’s the part where “coping” quietly turns into avoidance.
No dramatic breakdown. No rock bottom. Just a slow, subtle numbing.
Gaming is incredible at giving you a sense of progress. Levels, drops, achievements, streaks. Even social validation. You show up, you’re rewarded. Your brain gets to check a box and say, I did something today.
The problem is that mental health doesn’t work on the same system.
You can log thousands of hours into a game and still feel emotionally stuck. You can be surrounded by people online and still feel weirdly alone. You can distract yourself so effectively that you don’t notice how tired you actually are until you finally log off — and everything rushes back in at once.
I think a lot of us live there.
Especially those of us who are chronically online not because we’re lazy or addicted, but because the internet is where we learned how to survive.
For gamers, online spaces are often safer. Predictable. Rules make sense. Effort is rewarded. If you fail, you respawn. Real life doesn’t offer that kind of clarity.
So when people say “just log off” or “touch grass,” it misses the point entirely. Logging off doesn’t magically give you coping skills you were never taught. It just removes the thing that was keeping you afloat.
At the same time, staying logged in forever has a cost.
For me, it showed up as emotional fatigue. Constant low-grade exhaustion. Feeling like I was always “on,” even when I wasn’t doing anything. Like my brain never got a chance to fully rest because there was always another notification, another stream, another goal.
And the hardest part? It didn’t feel bad enough to justify changing anything.
That’s the danger zone. When something isn’t actively destroying your life, but it’s also quietly keeping you from living it.
I don’t think gaming is the problem. I don’t think the internet is evil. I think the issue is that many of us were never taught how to exist without a constant digital buffer between us and our thoughts.
So we build our lives around the buffer.
This series isn’t about quitting games. It’s not about detoxes or productivity hacks or pretending that offline life is automatically healthier. It’s about noticing the trade-offs. Naming them honestly. Talking about mental health in online spaces without turning it into a competition over who’s coping “better.”
Some days, gaming still helps me. Other days, it’s a hiding place. Learning the difference has been uncomfortable — but necessary.
If you’re someone who’s always online, not because you want to be, but because it’s where you learned how to breathe — you’re not broken.
But you might be tired.
And maybe that’s worth paying attention to.
Digi’s Random thoughts 